Down below is the kind of advice for relationships that we all can learn to live by.
1.> Being argumentative or Combative! This kind of attitude has got to go! This is deadly stuff and usually the toxic venom that is spewed forth from this kind of interaction will in the end kill the relationship deader than dead! If you love this person then act like it. Talk to them in a gentle nurturing way at ALL times! It is NOT difficult, but does require being aware of your actions any time a disagreement comes about! Be cool!
2.> Disrespectful and Belittling! Almost goes hand in hand. Some folks, just as a general way of being, insult, belittle and totally disrespect their partners, thoughts, ideas and actions. Now, I am a pretty understanding guy, but I have to ask, what in the hell is up with that? Here is some straight talk from Jeff… “Back Off Now!” The person who you “SAY” you love; hold them close and build them up, not tear them down!
3.> Corny, but true…Pobody’s Nerfect! Perfectionism with people should be outlawed! Perfect people on planet earth are no longer here! They vanished long ago, probably eaten by the dinosaurs! My point is, we are all flawed in some way. Sure, that should not give us a license to avoid self-improvement and personal growth. However, in terms of how we treat one another in a relationship stop expecting perfection. It ain’t going to happen, Jack!
4.> No Fanning the Flame! You probably asked, what flame? I am speaking about the flame of love. It still needs to be constantly fanned by actions and activities that convey how much you cherish and care for the other person. Many couples fail to do this because of falling into the “taking the other for granted trap.” Your ability to keep the spark alive can prevent wondering hearts and preserve your relationship for the long-term.
5.> Same Old-Same Old! Okay you know what that means, right? It means you have gotten into a groove with your love! Doing the same routine over and over again can be disastrous, especially if the same routine of coming home, eating dinner, watching TV, then going to bed for low or no sexual input, because you are tired is repeated. If you want to avoid this relationship killer, break from your rut and stay out of it! This means both of you!
This is very solid advice for relationships to grow by. However it requires that both parties open their eyes and see the reality of building a strong and lasting relationship.
As I always say, advice for relationships is only as good as your willingness to follow it through! I am hoping that your desire is to follow it through!